entitlement, blame, manipulation
computer and video game addiction
emotional and behavior problems
learning disabilities and differences
educational failure or rapid decline
lack of confidence
autism spectrum disorders
school too easy, lack of challenge
high ability, low performance
failure to launch
suicide attempt or threat
jail or juvenile detention
threat of violence to others
overdose or other substance abuse emergency
addiction and co-occuring issues
negative peer relations/gang involvement
rage or extreme defiance at home, school, or elsewhere
suspension/dismissal from school
severe depression or anxiety
sharp decline in school engagement, failing grades
refusal to get out of bed or go to school
eating disorders/psychiatric disorders
sexual promiscuity, aggression, abuse
THE GREAT NEWS: Creative, Hopeful Options Are Available!
There are hundreds of schools and programs for struggling pre-teens, teens, and young adults across the country, and their offerings vary widely. We regularly visit them— wilderness therapy programs, therapeutic boarding schools, residential treatment centers, programs for substance abuse, mentoring programs, and character-building boarding schools—to identify safe and effective programs with high integrity and compassion. This enables us to make informed recommendations based on the particular needs of each troubled student.
Seeing the Situation in Context
We begin by meeting with parents and students, focusing on the student with genuine interest in his or her education and growth. We ask how things are going in school, in the family, and with friends, as well as where the student feels he or she is currently heading—short term and long term—and his or her aspirations for the future.
We then turn to parents’ own perceptions, concerns, and hopes, and discuss the student’s home, school, and social life. Parents write a narrative telling the story of their son or daughter, from early childhood to the present. This information is reviewed, along with school records—transcripts, test results, teacher comments, evaluations, and reports—and any records from therapists and other professionals.
Unhealthy patterns within the family may have developed over a long period of time and will not disappear overnight. The healing process takes hard work and commitment on the part of each family member, especially each parent. Those who take this approach are far more likely to get a successful outcome. This is why we recommend only those schools and programs which offer a family system focus. Research shows there are three key factors that contribute to successful outcomes:
1. Commitment of parents and family members to the healing process.
2. Healthy structure in the home when the student leaves treatment.
3. Effective aftercare support for both the student and the family.
As parents ourselves, we have deep compassion for parents who are struggling to understand and to help their son or daughter. We have been in their shoes. We share our experience with our clients. We learn with you and from you. And we connect families with programs and schools where family involvement is central to the philosophy and practice.
traditional boarding school with support
therapeutic wilderness program
residential treatment center
therapeutic and emotional growth boarding school
transitional program for young adults, 18 years and older
Educational consultants neither solicit nor accept compensation from any school or program for placement of a client.
John offers mentoring and coaching services for parents, grandparents, and guardians of struggling pre-teens, teens, and young adults. When parents or guardians are struggling with vexing situations, John is uniquely qualified to coach, to encourage, and to guide in helpful and constructive ways. He has particular interest and skill working with grandparents who find themselves overwhelmed with the responsibility they have assumed.
Drawing on a lifetime of experience as teacher, headmaster, Outward Bound School Director, and professional educational consultant, John’s coaching services may be useful and appropriate whether before or after therapeutic intervention and treatment. John is the father of four young adults and grandparent of three young children.
His approach is authentic and compassionate. It is based on careful listening, open and honest communication, a non-judgmental relationship with the client, and diligent collaboration in finding solutions. A primary goal of the coaching process is to emphasize healthy communication and the personal growth of each family member.
When clients may feel they have exhausted every constructive option, John offers a fresh approach structured for the needs of each client. He draws on a deep well of creative ideas and effective strategies for change. He works with clients nation-wide.
-Parents of 17-year old young man
-Single parent mother of 23-year old daughter
-Grandparents of 19-year old grandson