entitlement, blame, manipulation
computer and video game addiction
emotional and behavior problems
learning disabilities and differences
educational failure or rapid decline
lack of confidence
autism spectrum disorders
school too easy, lack of challenge
high ability, low performance
failure to launch
suicide attempt or threat
jail or juvenile detention
threat of violence to others
overdose or other substance abuse emergency
addiction and co-occuring issues
negative peer relations/gang involvement
rage or extreme defiance at home, school, or elsewhere
suspension/dismissal from school
severe depression or anxiety
sharp decline in school engagement, failing grades
refusal to get out of bed or go to school
eating disorders/psychiatric disorders
sexual promiscuity, aggression, abuse
THE GREAT NEWS: Creative, Hopeful Options Are Available!
There are hundreds of schools and programs for struggling pre-teens, teens, and young adults across the country, and their offerings vary widely. We regularly visit them— wilderness therapy programs, therapeutic boarding schools, residential treatment centers, programs for substance abuse, mentoring programs, and character-building boarding schools—to identify safe and effective programs with high integrity and compassion. This enables us to make informed recommendations based on the particular needs of each troubled student.
Seeing the Situation in Context
We begin by meeting with parents and students, focusing on the student with genuine interest in his or her education and growth. We ask how things are going in school, in the family, and with friends, as well as where the student feels he or she is currently heading—short term and long term—and his or her aspirations for the future.
We then turn to parents’ own perceptions, concerns, and hopes, and discuss the student’s home, school, and social life. Parents write a narrative telling the story of their son or daughter, from early childhood to the present. This information is reviewed, along with school records—transcripts, test results, teacher comments, evaluations, and reports—and any records from therapists and other professionals.
Unhealthy patterns within the family may have developed over a long period of time and will not disappear overnight. The healing process takes hard work and commitment on the part of each family member, especially each parent. Those who take this approach are far more likely to get a successful outcome. This is why we recommend only those schools and programs which offer a family system focus. Research shows there are three key factors that contribute to successful outcomes:
1. Commitment of parents and family members to the healing process.
2. Healthy structure in the home when the student leaves treatment.
3. Effective aftercare support for both the student and the family.
As parents ourselves, we have deep compassion for parents who are struggling to understand and to help their son or daughter. We have been in their shoes. We share our experience with our clients. We learn with you and from you. And we connect families with programs and schools where family involvement is central to the philosophy and practice.
traditional boarding school with support
therapeutic wilderness program
residential treatment center
therapeutic and emotional growth boarding school
transitional program for young adults, 18 years and older
Educational consultants neither solicit nor accept compensation from any school or program for placement of a client.
Focusing on problem solving and personal growth, we custom-design coaching programs for our clients’ specific needs. A coaching series can focus on the process of preparing to send a high-needs child for residential placement, on aftercare coaching when a student returns home from treatment, or simply on better communication and conflict resolution within the family.
While not a substitute for psychotherapy, life coaching does seek to identify and remove obstacles in the quest for better relationships and quality of life. The process requires honesty and openness to learning and change. Our approach is not about analyzing or judging. It’s about listening, asking questions, and identifying strengths. More important, it’s about setting clear goals, and evoking the will to achieve those goals.
In every case, awareness and responsibility are vital to the process. Greater awareness often leads to new perspectives and responsible choices, and lasting solutions can be achieved when individuals take responsibility for growth and healing. Coaching sessions may be conducted over the telephone, in the home of the client, or in one of our offices—in Asheville, Black Mountain, or Charlotte. Call us to explore these options.